The word “love” is often used in ways that reveal a confusion between neediness and love. A person clinging to an unfulfilling or even abusive romantic relationship might say, “I love my partner so much.” Someone in the grips of an addiction might say they “love” their substance or behavior of choice. Both needing and… Continue reading Loving and needing
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Inside and outside
The psyche of a young child is like an unfinished house whose windows do not yet have any glass panes installed. Her mind has its own interior separate from the minds of others just as surely as her vital organs are contained within her skin, but during her formative years the psychic boundary is porous.… Continue reading Inside and outside
The culture of maximum harm
Civilization is only one of the many human cultures that have existed on Earth and it is certainly not the oldest, but its destructiveness is without parallel. It is characterized by plowing the soil, dependence on growing annual grain and legume crops in extremely labor intensive ways, locking up the food surpluses thereby produced, and… Continue reading The culture of maximum harm
Contempt traumatizes children
Every overt act of abuse is inflicted on its victim with contempt, which is a poisonous mixture of intimidation and disgust. The emotional energy of contempt is a traumatizing force of its own. It is routinely used by ordinary parents all around the world when they needle and prod and stab and blast their children… Continue reading Contempt traumatizes children
Why is “childish” an insult?
When a name for a group of people is spat out in a tone of angry disgust, this reveals some degree of hatred for the entire group of people. An example where this is easy to recognize: some people in the United States will, in a social setting where nobody will criticize them for it,… Continue reading Why is “childish” an insult?
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